You need to understand that although you and your family are African, you now live in a different environment to where you were born. Here in the UK, parental involvement in educating teenagers about sexual health is common.

You and your wife need to improve your communication skills so you can both ‘connect’ with the girls and ensure everybody is relaxed about discussing sex and relationship issues. There is no need for lectures. Casual remarks about the advantages of postponing sex and the risks associated with unsafe sex (e.g. pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections) can make a big impression.

Try and avoid actions that affect your children’s rights, as they could lead to child protection issues. Finally, encourage the girls to access sexual health information that is available from charities and some young people’s websites.

Fola

Dear Virginia,

You and your brothers will need to work towards building trust with your mum and creating a good balance between your education (which is of great importance to many African parents) and the things you enjoy doing in your free time.

Try and be mindful of the kind of friends you hang out with. You also need to work on your communication skills, so that you can give good explanations to your mum about why it is the character, not the tribe, of a friend that matters most. Let your mum know that you are capable of making the right decision about what sort of friends you want. Also, let her know that the world today is like one big village, where people from different cultural and ethnic background mix. You can mention examples of couples from different cultures who are married and in a good relationship. You can also encourage your mum to attend workshops aimed at promoting cohesion between the different races.

Fola

The President: Hello everyone – how’s everybody doing today? I’m here with students at Wakefield High School in Arlington, Virginia. And we’ve got students tuning in from all across America, kindergarten through twelfth grade. I’m glad you all could join us today.
I know that for many of you, today is the first day of school. And for those of you in kindergarten, or starting middle or high school, it’s your first day in a new school, so it’s understandable if you’re a little nervous. I imagine there are some seniors out there who are feeling pretty good right now, with just one more year to go. And no matter what grade you’re in, some of you are probably wishing it were still summer, and you could’ve stayed in bed just a little longer this morning.
I know that feeling. When I was young, my family lived in Indonesia for a few years, and my mother didn’t have the money to send me where all the American kids went to school. So she decided to teach me extra lessons herself, Monday through Friday – at 4:30 in the morning.
Now I wasn’t too happy about getting up that early. A lot of times, I’d fall asleep right there at the kitchen table. But whenever I’d complain, my mother would just give me one of those looks and say, "This is no picnic for me either, buster."
So I know some of you are still adjusting to being back at school. But I’m here today because I have something important to discuss with you. I’m here because I want to talk with you about your education and what’s expected of all of you in this new school year.
Now I’ve given a lot of speeches about education. And I’ve talked a lot about responsibility.
I’ve talked about your teachers’ responsibility for inspiring you, and pushing you to learn.
I’ve talked about your parents’ responsibility for making sure you stay on track, and get your homework done, and don’t spend every waking hour in front of the TV or with that Xbox.
I’ve talked a lot about your government’s responsibility for setting high standards, supporting teachers and principals, and turning around schools that aren’t working where students aren’t getting the opportunities they deserve.
But at the end of the day, we can have the most dedicated teachers, the most supportive parents, and the best schools in the world – and none of it will matter unless all of you fulfill your responsibilities. Unless you show up to those schools; pay attention to those teachers; listen to your parents, grandparents and other adults; and put in the hard work it takes to succeed.
And that’s what I want to focus on today: the responsibility each of you has for your education. I want to start with the responsibility you have to yourself.


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Dear Auntie Fola,

I attended a workshop where somebody said it is possible for someone to have unprotected sex with a positive person – and not get infected. How’s this possible? I always thought you get the virus the moment you use a condom when having sex with a positive person.

Mghanga, Dalston

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